What It’s Like to Work Together
Trauma-informed support after a blindsiding breakup…the first session, the pace, and what ongoing work together can offer you.
Most people come to their first session with me in the middle of something they never saw coming.
Maybe your body hasn’t stopped shaking. Maybe you’re replaying conversations on a loop, trying to understand how someone who said they loved you could detach so suddenly. Maybe you’re functioning on the surface, but unraveling the second you’re alone.
We start exactly where you are, with the truth of what this has done to you.
In this session:
I’ll help you make sense of the emotional whiplash you’re experiencing
Offer grounding where things feel chaotic
And reflect back the realities you may be too overwhelmed to see clearly right now.
If it’s helpful, I’ll share immediate tools or resources to support your nervous system
Your First Session
Everyone arrives in a different place.
Some people come in still in shock, others are months out but stuck in a loop they can’t interrupt, and some are trying to rebuild their sense of self after holding everything alone for too long. Our ongoing work is shaped around where you are.
Here’s what our work often includes:
Creating a steady place to process your grief without anyone rushing you, minimizing your pain, or expecting you to be okay before you are
Understanding the specific trauma of loving someone deeply and then being discarded without explanation, accountability, or emotional presence
Untangling the patterns that made you shrink, over-function, or ignore your own needs so you can recognize and interrupt those patterns in the future
Making sense of the timeline and the emotional whiplash in a way that brings coherence instead of self-blame, rumination, or desperate searching for “what you missed.”
Rebuilding trust in your perception, your intuition, and your emotional reality after experiencing a sudden emotional shutdown from someone you loved
Working with the waves (panic, numbness, grief, longing, anger) so they feel survivable rather than destabilizing
Slowly reconnecting you to your own agency, desires, and intuition, instead of living in reaction to someone else’s avoidance or indifference
Finding accessible therapeutic support if you need deeper care. I do the admin work of searching, vetting, and matching you with trauma-informed providers in your area so you don’t have to navigate that alone
Your Next Step
If you’re considering working together, the best place to start is a first session. It gives you a chance to feel what support with me is actually like and offers immediate grounding during a time when everything feels chaotic and unclear. There’s no pressure to decide anything beyond that.
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What’s Not Within My Scope
There are situations where coaching can still be incredibly supportive as long as you are also being seen by a licensed therapist, psychologist, or psychiatrist. In those cases, our work becomes supplemental. There are also moments where coaching alone isn’t the right level of care.
Coaching with me is not the primary container you need when someone is:
In an active mental health crisis or struggling with safety
Experiencing symptoms that require clinical assessment, diagnosis, or specialized treatment
Experiencing ongoing domestic violence or active abuse that requires professional safety planning
Needing daily emotional stabilization or crisis availability beyond the pace of weekly coaching
If any of this describes where you are, we can work together as part of a team, as long as you are also connected to a licensed provider who can hold the clinical pieces I cannot.
And if you don’t have someone yet, I can help you find the right person. I do the searching, vetting, and matching for you, using my network of trauma-informed providers, so you don’t have to navigate that alone.