You keep wondering what you did, what you could do differently, how you might convince him. But the truth is, you’re trying to appeal to something in him that isn’t there in the way you’re hoping.

Narcissists, emotional abusers don’t see people the way you see people.

They don’t experience connection like you do.
They don’t feel safe when someone is vulnerable…they feel powerful.
They don’t cherish closeness, they use it as leverage.

It’s not that they don’t know you’re hurting.
It’s that your pain is irrelevant unless it benefits them.

A narcissist sees people as tools.
Objects.
Characters in their script.
You’re either useful to them or in their way.

They can mimic care.
They can say the right words.
They can ‘seem’ to connect.
But it’s not empathy, it’s strategy.

They study people so they can control them.
They learn your nervous system like a map
Not to help you feel safe…
But to know exactly what to do to keep you hooked.

And the most painful part?
They don’t stop to ask themselves what it does to you.
Because you’re not real to them in the way they are real to you.

You have become a mirror.
And the moment the reflection isn’t pleasing to them, they crack it.

So when you keep asking, “Is it me?”
The answer is no.

The damage you feel isn’t because you’re too much or not enough
It’s because you gave your humanity to someone who can’t recognize it.

You are not crazy.
You are not broken.
You are not hard to love.
You were just trying to be seen by someone who refuses to see.